It is only natural that you feel jealous when you see your spouse with someone else. This is not the case with swingers though; swingers have a good foundation of trust to actually allow spouses to have recreational sex without feeling jealous whatsoever. If you are thinking about swinging, jealousy is definitely an issue you need to work on before you go any further.

Dealing with jealousy is a tricky business indeed. You are not only dealing with your jealousy seeing your spouse with other person, but you also need to make sure your actions don’t trigger jealousy. When starting to get to know the lifestyle, this is probably the most difficult challenge. I had the same problem with jealousy when I first started swinging, and I found out that the best way to deal with it is to take everything one step at a time and communicate openly about every action.

Honesty is always the best policy. Be honest about your feelings upon things and let your spouse know that they should be honest about their feelings as well. It may also help to set a couple of ground rules before you engage more serious swinging activities; describe what you and your spouse are comfortable with, set some rules, and stick to it. Never go a step further before you are sure both of you are comfortable — this includes having no jealousy. If you follow these tips, I’m sure you will be able to take the swinging experiences beyond jealousy and have an even more fun with your spouse.