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Swinging: Do You Have To Be Bisexual?

Thursday, November 19th, 2009

It is not a secret that swinging involves different kinds of sexual activities. There are quite a lot of swinging couples who love to have same-sex adventures, although in most cases it is limited to female same-sex activities. Male swingers, ones who are comfortable with having sex with another male, can also be found getting involved in same-sex activities. But does swinging require you to be bisexual? Absolutely not!

I have met several female swingers who love to explore their sexuality by engaging sexual acts with another female playmate, or even several female playmates. Still, there are other sexual experiences that can be obtained by embracing the swinging lifestyle including watching other couple have sex, swapping partners — whether for soft swinging or for full intercourse — and of course group sex especially in on-premise swinging events. As you can see, you don’t have to be bisexual to enjoy swinging; there are countless other sexual activities and fantasies that you can enjoy with your spouse that don’t involve same-sex playmates.

Swinging is all about exploring what you are really comfortable with sexually and fulfilling fantasies; if you are not comfortable with same-sex acts then you don’t have to force yourself to do it. Just start with what you and your spouse really want, and take it one step at a time from there. If you are bisexual, you will see a lot of opportunities to explore that side of yourself. If you are not, there is no need to change yourself and there are countless other pleasures to explore.

Taking It beyond Jealousy

Wednesday, November 4th, 2009

It is only natural that you feel jealous when you see your spouse with someone else. This is not the case with swingers though; swingers have a good foundation of trust to actually allow spouses to have recreational sex without feeling jealous whatsoever. If you are thinking about swinging, jealousy is definitely an issue you need to work on before you go any further.

Dealing with jealousy is a tricky business indeed. You are not only dealing with your jealousy seeing your spouse with other person, but you also need to make sure your actions don’t trigger jealousy. When starting to get to know the lifestyle, this is probably the most difficult challenge. I had the same problem with jealousy when I first started swinging, and I found out that the best way to deal with it is to take everything one step at a time and communicate openly about every action.

Honesty is always the best policy. Be honest about your feelings upon things and let your spouse know that they should be honest about their feelings as well. It may also help to set a couple of ground rules before you engage more serious swinging activities; describe what you and your spouse are comfortable with, set some rules, and stick to it. Never go a step further before you are sure both of you are comfortable — this includes having no jealousy. If you follow these tips, I’m sure you will be able to take the swinging experiences beyond jealousy and have an even more fun with your spouse.

Swinging: Is It Really THAT Unacceptable?

Thursday, October 29th, 2009

Frankly speaking, I’m amazed by the amount of cons when it comes to swinging as a lifestyle. There are just so many people unable to cope with the fact that love between swinging couples can be that strong to actually generate enough trust and allow recreational sex. Swinging is definitely not cheating, because the idea of having recreational sex among swinging couples is also supported by the full knowledge, approval, and even participation of the spouses. To be able to allow recreational sex and not have even the slightest amount of jealousy requires a lot of trust indeed, but swinging couples can establish the amount of trust needed and most likely live happier lives; this is possible because they are fulfilling every fantasies and they are living life to the fullest. It is far preferable than cheating, right?

I also understand why many people think swinging is hardly acceptable. They simply can’t imagine trusting their spouses that much and allowing them to have recreational sex. The idea of swinging cannot be easily accepted by those with conventional way of thinking. However, if you do take the extra step and try to understand swinging or see swinging beyond the sexual activities, you will understand the lifestyle the way swingers understand without a problem.

Swinging doesn’t have to be part of your life, but it doesn’t mean the lifestyle is unacceptable as well. Just keep an open mind and see beyond your perception of the lifestyle, and you will be able to appreciate swinging as a lifestyle full of love and trust.

What Can Swinging Offer You?

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

Swinging is getting more and more popular these days. There are more couples, and singles, getting themselves attracted to the lifestyle. I know this because more people, usually non-swinger friends who know my wife and I have been swinging for quite a while now, ask questions about swinging and try to open their minds to the lifestyle. One of the most common questions I get about swinging is what the lifestyle has to offer. I may be biased when giving answers to this question, but I can tell you for sure that swinging will offer you a lot if you up for the experiences.

Swinging is a great opportunity to explore yourself sexually. You may have unfulfilled fantasies and desires; swinging will give you just the chance to make them come true. My wife had always wanted to explore herself sexually with another woman (or women), and I too wanted to see her do this. Swinging allows us to find female playmates and give my wife the chance to play with them while I watch from the sideline. She even had sexual adventures with four female playmates at one time, and I’ve never seen her so aroused. It also improves our sexual and marriage life, because then we can talk openly about what we want and explore it together.

Remember that swinging is pleasant if you are up for the challenge. Make sure there are no issues, that both of you are comfortable with the lifestyle and the amount of love and trusts needed are there; you will have a blast enjoying swinging as part of your life.

Swinging: Synchronizing Desires

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

A lot of swinging couples I know got too carried away after a while. They forgot that swinging is about mutual pleasure, and ended up having problems they don’t realize was there. After seeing some of these couples, I realized that the problem lies in the lack of communication. Swinging is about sharing desires and making fantasies come true. In order to do this effectively, and for the swinging experiences to be mutually enjoyable, you need to do something I’d like to call synchronizing desires.

Synchronizing desires means communicating openly about what you and your spouse expect from the lifestyle. There are things that are simply unacceptable for either of you, and you need to be aware of these things and make sure they don’t get in the way. Trading fantasies and desires will allow you to build mutual comfort and excitement; these are the key foundations to healthy swinging. Once you know how you can sync your desires, it would be really easy to choose the right playmates, arouse the right mood in the right situation, and have a lovely swinging experience with your spouse.

You should never forget to check on each other every once in a while even when both of you are comfortable with swinging. Make talking about desires and fantasies a regular agenda, discuss about past swinging experiences, and enhance your swinging experiences that much further. You will be able to reach new heights, and both you and your spouse will have even greater experiences enjoying swinging as part of your life.

Meeting New Swinging Partners

Saturday, September 5th, 2009

Some of you may be on the lookout for new swinging partners. If you are looking for someone to play with, you may want to consider these few tips. It will not help you find swinging partners faster, but it would really help you find the one you are comfortable with easily. The first thing you would want to remember about finding new swinging partners is the level of comfort. It would be too much to ask if you are hoping to decide whether you are comfortable with the swinging couple you are meeting for the first time; give it some time and go on for a second meeting to see if you are getting comfortable with the person you are seeing. Explore expectations and tell stories about each others’ swinging experiences to get a glimpse of what kind of swinger you are dealing with.

If you are placing personal ads on websites, it would also be best to reply on available ads instead of just waiting for someone to reply to yours. By actively browsing though other personal ads and replying to them, you are giving yourself and your partner a chance to choose partners who meet your criteria. You are taking control of whose personal ads to reply; it would seriously increase the chance of finding swinging partners you are comfortable with. Don’t rush things and take your time, let the get-to-know process flow as it should and you will be surprised to see how easy it is to find fabulous swinging partners.