A lot of swinging couples I know got too carried away after a while. They forgot that swinging is about mutual pleasure, and ended up having problems they don’t realize was there. After seeing some of these couples, I realized that the problem lies in the lack of communication. Swinging is about sharing desires and making fantasies come true. In order to do this effectively, and for the swinging experiences to be mutually enjoyable, you need to do something I’d like to call synchronizing desires.

Synchronizing desires means communicating openly about what you and your spouse expect from the lifestyle. There are things that are simply unacceptable for either of you, and you need to be aware of these things and make sure they don’t get in the way. Trading fantasies and desires will allow you to build mutual comfort and excitement; these are the key foundations to healthy swinging. Once you know how you can sync your desires, it would be really easy to choose the right playmates, arouse the right mood in the right situation, and have a lovely swinging experience with your spouse.

You should never forget to check on each other every once in a while even when both of you are comfortable with swinging. Make talking about desires and fantasies a regular agenda, discuss about past swinging experiences, and enhance your swinging experiences that much further. You will be able to reach new heights, and both you and your spouse will have even greater experiences enjoying swinging as part of your life.